There’s a phrase that most mothers say to their children at one time or another.
A curse if you will. “I hope you have a child that acts just like you.” It’s usually said when the child is misbehaving or acting out, and mom has reached the end of her rope.
My daughter Sam has always been a handful. One one of those particularly trying occasions when I thought I couldn’t deal with any more, I said those words. Fast forward to present day. It’s abundantly clear to me that the curse works!
Sam’s second daughter Aly is now 3-1/2 years old and the “mini me” of her mom. Aly is a little spitfire with an abundance of energy. Some of which she uses for good, and some…well…not so good.
Aly likes to get her way and gets very loud and whiny when she doesn’t. She’s a terribly picky eater who wants to live on hotdogs, mac n’ cheese, waffles, and fruit snacks. Dinner time is usually a particularly trying time. You can tell Aly “don’t touch that” and she’ll stare you in the eye as she reaches for that item with an evil grin on her face. You can tell her something like, “if you throw that ball in the house again you’re going to stand in the corner.” She will throw the ball anyway and then is outraged when you put her in the corner.
Please don’t get me wrong, I love Aly very much. She can be a very sweet and loving child. She loves to cuddle when she’s tired. Aly is also very funny. The moment she comes into the house from daycare she hollers “Nana, I’m home”. She then waits for me to say “Aly I’m home too,” before she giggles and comes running to give me a hug. She’s quite a little tomboy and has bruises up and down her legs to prove it. The other night she ran across the kitchen and hit her head on the back of the kitchen chair as she passed it. My husband Errol and I both cringed and waited for the expected cry. It never came, so I asked her if she was alright. She never missed a beat and said “I’m alright Nana, it happens all the time.”
One day she was having trouble putting on her sneakers. “Pull your tongue out” I said. She looked at me like I was stupid, stuck her tongue out, and went back to trying to get her sneaker on.
Aly loves to help. If you call to her she’ll come running and ask “Papa, whatcha need?”
So although Aly can be quite exhausting at times, she’s great fun to be with too.
The moral of this story is…if you ever decide to utter that infamous phrase and curse your child, be prepared that they could be living with you when the curse kicks in.